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Love, the magical word in our lives...
G-d was kind to give us the possibility to feel what love is... But, Love is not an easy-to-get commodity...
When women want a diamond, they think it's the ultimate thing to have in life... Poor women, poor humans...
No, the most wonderful, brilliant and precious "diamond" is Love, the ultimate version of what is best in this life... nothing as Love to move mountains...
What Love is all about...
Love is not only about chemistry. Chemistry is the base for a wonderful connection. But after that, life kicks in... and it demands a highly dynamic interaction, a sort of tango dancing, where both are going in the same direction, with slightly different moves...
One turns while the other holds... One pulls while the other pushes slightly... At turns, one holds and the other swirls around...
Love does not mean that either of them is perfect, but they are attracted to each other by some features, some traits and therefore, that's a great beginning...
But, as days go by and by, life settles in and habit makes an entrance, to bring down illusions and opens the eyes to reality. And, usually, what one and the other see, is not really what they saw at the beginning and without much ado, they allow themselves to betray the good feeling of the beginning, without realizing that Love is that:
Love is like two trees that have their invisible roots well inside the earth, keeping them immovable, next to each other, but also they will have their branches exploring in the open air, to touch, to feel and see the outside world... together...
Love is about connecting, communicating, expressing what's right and what's not right, discussing together to make the relationship work and the surrounding world a better one...
There is no Love that has developed without work.
I have observed couples that are married for 60, 70 years, and I have asked them what was their secret... and they have told me... and I have seen it...
Love does not come in this corrupted society by following the everything-goes-rules.
No, a Couple's Love is a most precious flower, the most expensive diamond ever in the world...
But, how to survive in this rotten, corrupted society...?
My friends' advice is always to do as much as possible together. And, I have seen them, at almost over 80 years, they are always together, holding hands, attentive to each other, they are almost never far from each other.
In Love, above and foremost, he must be Her only best friend. And She must be his only best friend. But, I am fully aware that this approach is seen as most retrograde even by the most conservative minds because of the encroached, silent liberal views that are so propagated in our era... liberal minds will tell that it's not possible... So, you will have to decide if you want to listen to my advice or not...
In our society, women and men want to have friends of the other gender without realizing that they should be using that time to nurture their relationship and expanding their horizons together, rather than opening the doors of their lives to other "friends".
Dating, easy flirting, are all part of a promiscuous way of life that is not propitious to building long lasting relationships based on Love, Understanding, Friendship, Compassion, Companionship, Care and so on...
So, sometimes when you are into it, the break up comes and is as if though someone was tearing you a part of your heart out of your living life...
And, that's life, two different, adult people, trying to build their spiritual home together until the end of their lives... When all of a sudden, a hurricane comes in and takes that part that you loved away from you, pitilessly and brutally...
That's Love...
It can be beautiful but one has to choose that arduous path that will demand effort from both, much talking and discussing, finding common terrain...
In Love, both are winners if they make it work...
In French, we say: "Pour vivre heureux, vivre cache..."
Which means, if you want to be happy, hide from the outer world...
Love is Divine, Love can be eternal and Love is beautiful, but it is in reality a feeling maybe with the added bonus of a shrewd negotiating skill on how to get what your heart desires and how to satisfy what you are expected to give to your partner's heart -and all that to make it last until the end of life...
Beware this treacherous society and how it has evolved, betraying everything what's pure and wonderful in life...
But after all is said and done, you can visualize yourselves as a loving, old couple, holding hands, smiling at each other, taking care of and caring for each other...
And when the world will look at you, the world will rejoice to see that your love triumphed...
So, here it is, to Love, Divine Love, True Love, Lasting Love...
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